How do you define success? Maybe it’s reaching your highest potential in your career. Or finding your soulmate. Perhaps it’s checking off your lifelong bucket list.
No matter how you define it, achieving success and feeling successful don’t always go hand in hand.
Corey Poirier is a best-selling author, multiple time TEDx speaker, and founder of bLU Talks. His success is not hard to see, but he didn’t get there by accident. Corey believes there’s a way to reach your goals and feel good getting there. He has 4 key tips to help you do the same:
- Expect the unexpected
One of the roadblocks to feeling successful is the assumption that if you put your mind to it, things will work out the way you plan them to. The truth is, no matter how hard you work, nothing is a guarantee.
Learn to be open to the unexpected.
When you expect the twists and turns of life, you’ll start to see opportunity in the surprises, even the ones that don’t seem positive at the start. If you seize these moments and use them for good, you’ll wind up closer to your goals with less stress in the process.
- Follow the signs
The universe has a tendency to point you in a certain direction through coincidences. Corey believes that these are synchronicities or signs that can be used as powerful tools for your success.
Signs can tell you a lot about who you are and what you’re meant to do.
For example, perhaps you’re considering going back to school. If your current employer announces flex time for working students the same week you spot a notification for financial aid packages at the university of your choice, it might be time to pay closer attention.
However, sometimes the signs aren’t completely clear. When this happens, Corey suggests writing them down in a journal. That way, you can start to look for repeat patterns that will help you discover the reason behind them. From there, you’ll be more confident about following the signs.
- Be thankful
When you’re working towards a goal, it’s best to remember that the universe gives you what you need, not what you want. This means what you want may not show up the way you imagine it.
For example, if you feel a call help those in need, don’t be surprised if an opportunity presents itself at an inconvenient time. This is what you’ve been looking for! Instead, be thankful for the chance to move towards your goal.
In order to feel successful, one of the most powerful tools you have is to practice gratitude.
Corey uses the MEPSS formula to live with gratitude. MEPSS is basically an inventory of your feelings in the following areas:
Take your own inventory or try the practice with loved ones. At the end, note what you’re thankful for and ask for a sign that you’re on the right path in life.
- Learn to say no
Did you know that the highest achievers say no upwards of 100 times more than the average person? Successful people have learned the power of saying no. That’s because not every opportunity will move you in the direction of your goals.
The key is to learn to say no to the asks that won’t move you forward so you can say yes to the ones that will.
A good rule of thumb is to do what you want to do, not what you think you should do. To help, Corey suggests creating a personal mission statement. List 5 high-level goals or values in your life. Next, measure every ask with these goals in mind. Does the ask align? Go for it. If it doesn’t, say no.
The right no can be a powerful way to reach your goals faster.
Success is relative. But feeling successful is up to you. Practice the tips above and feel good along the way.