3 Secrets to Making Fear Your Friend

You see an opportunity for big change in your life. But you’re scared to take it. Sound familiar?

Founder and Co-CEO of Noonday Collection Jessica Honegger can relate. Ten years ago she was at a crossroads. She had the opportunity to start a business that helps artisans in vulnerable areas of the world make a living by selling their goods in America. But she was scared there wouldn’t be a viable market for them.

She had a choice: let fear win or make fear her friend. She decided to go scared. Today, the entrepreneurial spirit of the artisans she supports are an inspiration to her, her organization, and the people who purchase their products.

Through this experience, Jessica has 4 secrets that will help you, too, make fear your friend:

1. It’s not all about you

What is the opportunity before you? Is it a career change? What if you pass and the new organization falters without your expertise? Is it a new relationship? You may be just who your potential partner is looking for.

As you weigh your decision, keep in mind you’re rarely in the me space and most likely in the we space.

This might sound cliché, but worth considering before you let fear win out. The truth is, the stakes are never all about you, your perception of yourself, or your individual fears.

2. You don’t have to be lonely

You may worry that change will alienate you from others. Maybe you’re ready to start your own business or want to run a marathon. But you like the camradery of your coworkers and your friends don’t run.

Instead of resisting change for fear of being alone, consider the opportunity to expand your circle.

You have a choice to create intentional community wherever life takes you. However, you it does require a few things: time, commitment, trust and vulnerability. And although these are scary things, embracing them is definitely worth it!

3. You are more than your accomplishments

To make fear your friend, avoid tying your identity to your accomplishments. This is difficult to do because it’s often the default in today’s culture. But the thing is, you rarely get what you want anyway – especially if you’re aiming for your true potential.

Instead, be faithful to your purpose, your values and your mission. Find joy there instead of the outcome. When you do, you will learn to develop what you need to live outside your comfort zone.

Here’s a tip: your purpose – and your potential – are found outside your comfort zone.

Giving in to fear can hold you back from realizing your potential. Instead, make fear your friend and go scared!