What if I told you your MIDLIFE CRISIS could be a POSITIVE thing? When all you want to do is run from this time in your life, instead why not OWN IT. You’re not in CRISIS – you’re a MIDLIFE BABE!
I looked on GoDaddy and guess what? I was able to scoop up the MIDLIFE BABE domain for $1! Can you believe it? In today’s culture, any other phrase containing the word BABE is taken. Everything except MIDLIFE. I think it’s time to CHANGE that!
DEFINING MIDLIFE CRISIS
To start, please know that your MIDLIFE CRISIS is real. Coined in 1965 by Elliott Jaques, the term refers to a period of time between the ages of 45-65 caused by growing or aging in combination with changes in your life, including regrets. The true definition is this: an emotional period of doubt and anxiety sometimes experienced by people who realize that their life is half over.
For you, it may feel more like a MIDLIFE MESS. And although the term may sound scary, when you DEFINE your experience, you may not need to call it a CRISIS at all. Start by OWNING your new title – MIDLIFE BABE – and embrace the future.
THE MIDLIFE MESS
Before you can embrace our status as MIDLIFE BABE, make sure you recognize the signs of a MIDLIFE MESS:
- Drastic changes in your habits
- Mood swings
- Impulsive decisions
- Sleep interruptions
- Negative feelings toward your aging body
- Your friends look old to you
- You feel stuck in a rut or bored
- Death feels closer as parents or friends begin dying
- Relationships suffer
- Alcohol or drug use to dull and numb feelings of inadequacy
- Purchase big ticket items or spend more
If you’re going through any of these, others your age are, too! This is when you have the OPPORUNITY to change course.
MIDLIFE CRISIS TO MIDLIFE BABE
If you’re ready to tidy up the MESS and MOVE ON, then put the following steps into ACTION today.
You may not like where you are now, but you won’t feel stuck forever. Be AWARE of where you are – and where you’d like to go.
This idea may seem scary, but it can be a good thing. Think about what you really want, then hit RESET. And keep this handy. You’ll have to do it regularly or you’ll BACKTRACK to a place you no longer want to be.
Midlife downturns are a real thing. But instead of focusing on what you should’ve done, give yourself a break. When you ACKNOWLEDGE that it’s okay to feel this way you can RELEASE the past and RESET to make the 2nd half of life better.
- SLOW DOWN
I know it’s easy to want to hurry up the process. But you need to ask yourself – what is the COST of my decisions? Many poor MIDLIFE CHOICES we make such as an affair or a drastic career change may go another way if we just SLOW DOWN first.
- TRY SOMETHING NEW
It’s time to step outside the box. The #1 way to get UNSTUCK is to do something INTERESTING, something to talk about. Consider some of my clients (some names have been changed):
- Jackie decided to drive a race car.
- Karen became a belly dancer.
- Leslie changed jobs from one she wasn’t crazy about to one she LOVES.
Get outside! Sunshine and exercise can change your mood and your environment. Even the simple act of breathing can change your current outlook, so get ready to MOVE.
- GIVE TO GET
Remember – it’s not all about you! Figure out how to GIVE of yourself and you’ll GET more than you can imagine!
- TALK ABOUT IT
Chances are, others are feeling the same way you are. Keep in touch with your friends and CONNECT. Don’t pull away. Start today – take a moment and call someone who needs to hear from you.
If you don’t like your current plan, CHANGE IT. Don’t be so set in your ways that you can’t throw it out and start over. Create a new plan and REALIGN!
It may feel like the last thing you want to do but smiling makes you feel happier. British researchers show that 1 GENUINE smile can generate the same brain stimulation as 2,000 chocolate bars. I think that’s worth a try!
A MIDLIFE CRISIS can lead to growth and development. Which brings us back to my newly purchased web domain – MIDLIFE BABE. That’s you – and me – so let’s OWN IT!